I’ve been reluctant to fully claim my place in the spiritual world.
Not because I doubt my gifts, or because my path isn’t clear. In fact, every day I ache to fully step into my role as a thought leader, coach, and space holder, but I’ve hesitated—because I’ve seen how easily the spiritual and wellness communities have become a mask for the very systems they claim to dismantle.
You know the one.
Where charisma is mistaken for wisdom.
Where hierarchy is dressed up as divine order.
Where harm is justified with phrases like “God told me to do it.”
The latest example? Aubrey Marcus.
He recently announced that he’s returned to polyamory, because, in his words, God and Isis told him to.
Now, I don’t follow him (or many male spiritual thought leaders, for that matter), but this one hit a nerve. I sat with it for days, asking myself why I was so deeply triggered.
And the answer is clear: this isn’t just about one man’s relationship.
Let me be very clear…I have no issue with polyamory. I believe there’s no one “right” way to love or live in this world. To each their own. What I do take issue with is using spirituality, consciousness, and sacred medicine to justify personal desires under the guise of divine instruction.
This is a deeper pattern I’ve seen over and over again, where spirituality becomes a tool of manipulation, especially toward women, framed as “conscious evolution.”
It’s not new. It’s just New Age.
The Script Is Old. It’s Just Been Rebranded.
A charismatic male figure.
A divine message.
A woman asked to silence her needs in the name of spiritual growth.
It’s organized religion, rebranded.
It’s the patriarchy, saged and sanctified.
Let’s be honest…God told me to do it” is one of the oldest tools of control we know.
In every tradition, across every era, it’s been used to dominate, manipulate, and excuse harm.
Now it’s just dressed in linen, quoting Rumi and holding space.
The Real Danger? Power Without Accountability
The moment someone says “Spirit told me,” it creates a hierarchy. They position themselves as the mouthpiece of the divine, and anyone who challenges them is labeled “unconscious,” “unhealed,” or “not ready.”
That’s not divine guidance.
That’s spiritual bypassing with a superiority complex.
Let’s ground this in truth.
No one has the right to place themselves between you and Source.
We all have a direct line.
We all have free will.
And let’s be very clear:
God doesn’t micromanage your dating life and doesn’t demand the sacrifice of your partner’s well-being.
And Spirit doesn’t cosign your ego’s agenda.
If your “download” only serves your desires while harming others, that’s not enlightenment. That’s entitlement.
Let’s Talk About Medicine. Briefly.
This deserves its own post, but it would be irresponsible not to name it here.
There’s a growing shadow side to the plant medicine boom.
Yes, these medicines are sacred.
Yes, they can heal, but without grounded integration, they can just as easily become tools for delusion.
Too many people are walking out of ceremonies with grand proclamations and zero accountability.
Visions are mistaken for divine authority.
Altered states are used to bypass the human experience instead of deepening it.
The medicine isn’t the problem.
The container is.
This Is Why I’ve Waited, But Also Why I Can’t Wait Any Longer
I’ve hesitated to step fully into the spiritual world not because I don’t believe in it, but because I don’t want to be associated with the same triggering patterns I’ve spent years unpacking and deconstructing.
And I’m tired of watching something sacred get distorted again and again.
So instead of staying silent, I want to offer this:
If you’re walking your own spiritual path… if you’re feeling the call to awaken, to heal, to remember who you are… bring your discernment with you.
Because while this path is sacred, it’s also vulnerable and not everyone who speaks the language of light is walking in truth.
Here are a few things to watch out for:
1. Charisma over integrity
If someone’s words sparkle but their actions feel off, trust what you feel. Truth doesn’t need to be performed.
2. Hierarchy disguised as divine order
If someone claims they have special access to God, or positions themselves as the only way forward, take a breath. You don’t need a middleman to reach the divine.
3. “Downloads” that ask you to abandon yourself
If a message—channeled, received in ceremony, or spoken with spiritual authority—asks you to override your intuition or your boundaries, that’s not God. That’s control.
4. Medicine without integration
Sacred medicine can open doors, but it needs to be grounded in accountability and integration, Ceremony is not a shortcut to wisdom.
5. The spiritual ego
The most dangerous ego is the one dressed in white robes calling itself awakened. Real power doesn’t need to dominate.
What I Believe
You have a direct line to Source.
You are your own oracle.
You are your own authority.
This wave of spiritual awakening so many of us have undergone isn’t so we can recreate new systems of control, but remember a different way…one rooted in love, truth, wholeness, balance and sovereignty.
If you’ve felt that quiet discomfort in your gut when something doesn’t sit right, trust it. If you’ve questioned someone who seems “more spiritual,” you’re not being judgmental. That’s your discernment working for you.
Remember that no one has more power of your life and your truth than you do.